How To Relate

Understanding Each Other: A Deep Dive into Relationship Dynamics with Christian Charette

Want to know what happens behind the scenes of couples therapy? Welcome to the couples therapist's couch with Christian Charette. Christian deep dives into how couples can find emotional connection through creativity, curiosity, and intention.
 
00:45 Journey into Couples Therapy
03:07 The Practicality of Couples Therapy
04:42 Challenges in Therapy and Real-Life Application
06:05 Family Systems and Therapy
08:13 The Importance of Connection in Relationships
21:33 Intentional Connection and Creativity
30:31 Curiosity and Differentiation in Relationships
34:50 Understanding Emotional Connection in Relationships
37:40 The Importance of Curiosity and Non-Judgment
38:48 Challenges Facing Modern Men
41:17 Redefining Masculinity and Vulnerability
47:39 The Role of Intimacy in Relationships
01:04:23 Intentional Living and Relationship Strategies
01:07:23 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Workshops
 
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https://coupleforward.com/couples-workshops-2/
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What's Happening with Young Men? Lessons in Male Vulnerability and Mentorship with Justin Carotti

What's happening with young men?
Brittani is with Justin Carotti! Justin is an experienced coach, mentor, clinician, and clinical supervisor.  primarily works with young adults in a variety of clinical settings, ranging from residential care to in-home treatments. He considers it a privilege to have the opportunity to form meaningful and supportive relationships with those he serves. In addition to his work at Valiance, Justin is also an adjunct faculty member of Fairfield University and the University of Connecticut. He studied at the University of North Carolina–Wilmington for his bachelor’s in Social Work and at the University of Connecticut
 
Episode Resources:
Find Justin
https://www.valiancecounseling.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/justincarotti/
 
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Your Guide to Relationship Dynamics: Communication and Connection

Communication problems are not the real problem: they're a symptom of the problem. Get to know what's underneath, how to communicate better, and how your attachment styles are coming into play.
00:29 Understanding Communication Issues in Couples
02:09 Exploring Boundaries in Relationships
03:30 Emotional Regulation and Accountability
04:34 Roles in Couple Dynamics
05:53 The Complexities of Communication
07:48 Attachment Theory and Human Needs
14:16 The Infinity Loop: A Tool for Relational Work
21:53 Individuation and Differentiation in Relationships
28:43 Effective Communication Strategies
35:31 Conclusion and Listener Engagement
 

Unspoken Hardships: Navigating Maternal Mental Health with Megan Davis

For anyone who has thought, "There are so many struggles no one told me about as a mom," then this episode is for you. In this episode of the How to Relate Podcast, Brittani is here with Megan Davis, a therapist specializing in maternal mental health. Discussion topics include the challenges and nuances of perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, the importance of sleep, self-compassion, and support systems for new mothers. Megan also delves into acceptance and commitment therapy, offering insights and practical advice for new and expecting parents navigating the early stages of parenthood.
 
00:00 Importance of Maternal Mental Health
00:22 Understanding Maternal Mental Health
01:51 Challenges and Symptoms in the Perinatal Period
08:03 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for New Moms
15:19 Addressing Birth Trauma and Partner Support
25:34 Balancing Parenthood and Self-Care
38:27 Advice for New Moms and Different Stages of Motherhood
43:33 Conclusion and Resources
 
Show Resources:
Megan Davis's website https://www.megandavispsychotherapy.com/
IG @megadavispsychotherapy
 
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Two Human Needs: Security and Exploration

In this solo episode we're going through the importance of security and desire for individuals and couples. You'll learn:
Importance of relational security and having a home base
Importance of desire and novelty
How to be a creative couple
How to explore individually
Why modern couples feel more pressure than ever
 
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Navigating Money and Relationships: Questions to ask each other, self-reflections, and importance of lifestyle discussions

Everett Uhl is back! Consider this episode a mix of Nobody Wants This and therapist guidance for navigating money in relationships. You'll learn about our pasts with money, how navigated money conversations in relationships, what you need to consider for your lifestyle similarities and differences, and how to communicate about money.  
 
00:53 Setting Up the New Studio
03:13 College Memories and Growing Up
07:47 Everett's Pursuit of a Singing Career
14:21 The Reality of Money and Society
18:59 Why We'll Never Recommend Better Help
33:44 Personal Stories and Money Beliefs
36:28 Childhood Money Lessons
37:54 Balancing Materialism and Minimalism
39:47 Marriage and Money: A Business Partnership
40:42 Financial Compatibility in Relationships
41:45 Grocery Shopping and Relationship Dynamics
50:23 Money Conversations in Early Dating
53:49 Power Dynamics and Household Chores
01:10:29 Navigating Financial Uncertainty
 
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Addiction Recovery: Finding Strength in Community and Play with Nolan Wright

A vulnerable story about addiction, recovery, and resilience with Nolan Wright.
Disclaimer: This episode mentions suicidal ideation. If you or someone you know is struggling see NAMI's resources https://www.nami.org/support-education/nami-helpline/
 
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:39 The Birth of Recess Games
03:22 Navigating COVID Challenges
04:13 The Importance of Play in Recovery
07:18 Pre-Recovery Chaos17:29 First Rehab Experience
24:13 The Turning Point: Healing Transitions
34:45 Thor's Magical Beer and the Illusion of Endless Resources
35:28 From Magic to Money: A Downward Spiral
36:20 Homelessness and Desperation
37:34 A Moment of Clarity and the Decision to Change
38:23 A Spiritual Awakening
41:24 Entering Healing Transitions
44:45 The Reality of Non-Medical Detox
47:19 The Power of Community and Accountability
56:19 Rebuilding Family Relationships
59:48 Launching Life Launch Recovery
01:04:19 Advice for Those Struggling with Addiction
01:07:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

Legalities of Marriage: All you need to know from beginning to end in the eyes of the law with Daniel Swain

If marriage's tagline is: "I love you so much, let's get the law involved," then shouldn't we have a complete understanding how the law is involved in marriage? This episode is like your privacy policy settings that you don't want to ignore if you're thinking of getting married, already married, or thinking about ending a marriage. Whatever stage you're in, this episode is for you. 
 
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:12 The Role of a Family Law Attorney
03:27 Marriage and Legal Implications
06:44 Financial Considerations in Marriage
13:15 Understanding Marital Property and Debt
28:30 Child Custody and Best Interests
32:44 Navigating Custody Disputes
44:40 Understanding Alimony in North Carolina
48:09 Infidelity and Alimony Claims
49:08 Suing the Affair Partner (legal in 6 states)
52:02 Jurisdictional Issues in Divorce
54:26 Premarital and Prenuptial Agreements
59:09 Child Custody Across State Lines
01:02:04 Nesting and Co-Parenting Challenges
01:15:42 Separation Agreements and Legal Separation
01:20:03 Final Advice and Resources
 

Relating with Self-Compassion: Unpacking Perfectionism and Anxiety with Kylie Lambert

What does self-compassion really mean? How do we navigate perfectionism in a world of social media self-help? Do we need to diagnose ourselves from Tik Tok? And more with Kylie Lambert!
 
00:00 Welcome and Guest Introduction
00:26 First Meeting and Connection
02:14 Understanding Anxiety and Perfectionism
04:32 Roots of the 'Not Good Enough' Story
10:31 Shame Narratives and Self-Compassion
10:58 The Pressure of Productivity and Rest
23:15 Defining and Practicing Self-Compassion
29:24 Understanding Anxiety and Communication
29:57 The Power of Language and Self-Regulation
30:41 Trusting Yourself and Building Resilience
31:21 Navigating Relationships and External Validation
32:47 Perfectionism and Emotional Responsibility
33:52 The Influence of Social Media on Mental Health
42:20 Self-Compassion and Its Impact on Relationships
45:39 Setting Boundaries and Protecting Your Peace
54:05 Practical Tips for Self-Compassion
56:25 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
 

Chaos, Control, and Cherry Juice: Unfiltered conversation with Jamie Drescher Ilinetsky

Enjoy this unplanned, unfiltered conversation with Jamie. We'll dive into the messiness of early adulthood, Jamie's martial arts career, religious faith and marriage, navigating friendships, and curing anxiety with cherry juice. Enjoy!
 
00:00 Introduction and Initial Banter
00:21 First Meeting and Early Memories
02:02 Life as Roommates
03:15 Adulting and Personal Growth
06:20 Social Work and Career Paths
07:28 Dating and Social Plans
09:17 Jewish Faith and Hebrew School
13:53 Taekwondo Journey and Challenges
29:28 Anxiety and Mental Health
35:01 Telepathic Connections and Idle Hour Coffee
35:33 Reconnecting After Years Apart
37:03 Girls Trip Planning and Busy Schedules
38:54 Discussing Anxiety and Imposter Syndrome
40:33 Convenience and Habitual Routines
48:58 Married Life and Household Chores
58:30 Fun Activities and Hobbies
01:05:29 Limiting Doomscrolling and Final Thoughts